Continued...
When
magnets are placed next to each other out of alignment they repel
each other. We consider this normal, and there is no surprise. People
similar to magnets have a charge, but when they repel this somehow
means that “they need to learn to get along”. Perhaps
this means they have to learn how not to interact, while allowing the
other person the ability and freedom to be themselves. We wouldn’t
keep trying to force two magnets together, and we shouldn’t
keep trying to force two people together. If we don’t like
someone we should just stop interacting with them. If that’s
not an option, find something to love about them. Don’t forget
that they are impersonating our own opinions. Figure out what is
aggravating about them and consider that this may be something we do
not like about ourselves, or something that we ourselves do. Perhaps
we have to accept that even though we may not like this sort of
behavior, it has its place in our personalities. We are who we are by
having the behaviors as a part of us, and perhaps the other person is
merely reflecting them. Once we realize and accept this we may be
surprised to see those around us behaving in a new way. This is
because we no longer need them to impersonate the specific opinions
that we wanted to observe and choose to no longer interact with. The
person may begin to impersonate other opinions, or the interaction
may cease completely as there may be nothing else for them to
impersonate. They may be the wrong actor to play out the other
opinions we have. It’s alright, they’ve done what we
needed them to do, we shouldn’t expect them to impersonate
something that they may not be able to. Would we want someone who's
broke impersonating or reflecting back our financial ideas?
Ever notice that husbands and wives,
after years of marriage, look and act like each other? Consider that
every individual is a “mirror” for AESA, but we are not
exclusive and we also reflect one another. Husbands and wives, or
other significant others, are “mirrors” who constantly
adjust and entrain themselves to each other, reflecting one another
year, after wonderful year, together. The reflections are pleasant to
one another to begin with. Make no mistake, opposites do not attract,
an intellectual pacifist homebody does not get together with an
ignorant crude abuser. Not without some other catalyst forcing the
bond. Alcohol has forced many such bonds. So when the reflections are
pleasant to begin with, there is nothing to change, nothing to
adjust. The reflection of one person gets combined with the
reflection of the other person and the two reflections continuously
bounce back and forth. The reflections amplify as each partner keeps
bringing more and more of themselves into alignment, enjoying the
“view” and adding more and more joy to the image being
reflected. There is a resonance as the “mirrors” amplify
and reflect each other, while becoming more and more alike. This is
not limited to “husbands” and “wives”. This
is the resonance of any couple or group. Lifelong friends will be
alike, domestic partners, business partners, and any people in close
proximity for extended periods of time. This is of course providing
that they were similar or compatible in the first place. Then again
they wouldn't have connected or become “entangled” if
there hadn't been an initial similarity. “Show me who your
friends are, and I'll show you who you are” could be restated
as “show me who your friends are, and I'll show you whom and
what they are reflecting”.
As we change and decide what we would
like to experience friends and acquaintances may come into and go out
of our lives. This may be misunderstood as dislike, indifference, a
happy reunion, or a lucky coincidence, but it is simply the
attraction of compatible reflections and mirrors. As we change, the
people in our lives will be dragged along for the ride. Some may be
more in alignment and will be along for more of the journey, while
others will disappear. This may appear normal or confusing at the
time. Some will move away for work while keeping in touch. Others may
suddenly stop calling or responding to calls, making us think it was
something we did. Friends we had not heard from for years may
suddenly reappear in our lives. “Show me who your friends
are...” much like “lead by example” are both
examples of what we choose to have reflected. As we choose who we
wish to be, and what experience we choose to have, we attract others
to reflect our choices back to us. We don't lead anyone anywhere; the
other people simply reflect back where it is that we are. With our
friends, as with anyone else around us, if we don't like what we're
seeing we should change what we are showing. If we don't like the
reflection, we should change what we are showing the “mirror”.
To be continued...
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